Our Mission


We are dedicated to identifying and celebrating the authentic gifts of GBTQ men. 

We provide space and practices that empower our community to reveal their perfect selves and to be truly seen.

We believe that owning our individual dignity, strengthening our connection to our chosen family(ies), and identifying the gifts we have for general society, transforms our lived experience from oppression to celebration.

Evoco Center Believes...


WE BELIEVE all men are whole and complete. Our work is to release everything that is not complete. 

WE BELIEVE that having our authentic selves seen by our peers is the first step towards creating the lives that we want. 

WE BELIEVE that honoring our gifts and the gifts of others is an act of celebration. 

WE BELIEVE that the Hero’s Journey of a GBTQ man has imbued him with special gifts. 

WE BELIEVE that nurturing our individual dignity and self-love is imperative to transformational change. 

WE BELIEVE that our chosen families and bio-families are indispensable sources of joy and strength, requiring and deserving investment and grace. 

WE BELIEVE that honoring and celebrating the differences in our diversity generates possibility, joy, and creative solutions, all of which are worth any challenges of holding that space.  

WE BELIEVE our attraction towards other men creates a unique culture that is fertile with possibilities for connection, joy, and dignity.

WE BELIEVE that sacred and protected spaces (a sense of “family” and “home”) are necessary for men to explore the richness and bounty of their most fundamental selves. 

WE BELIEVE internalized homophobia must be recognized and released to unlock the full expression of the altruistic nature of GBTQ men.

WE BELIEVE an investment in all the above is good for us individually, is good for our families, is good for our communities, and is good for the planet.

About Sex


We believe that sex is good, and it can be leveraged to create strong community bonds and deepen an individual man’s sense of dignity. Good Sex happens when the person, or all people involved, walk away from the sexual scene feeling better about themselves.


We believe that sex is intrinsic to GBTQ men thriving as a community. It is the bonding force that every single GBTQ man has in common. The urge to merge draws us toward each other, encouraging a culture of cooperation.


We believe that sexual shame is a barrier to living a celebrated life. Uncovering the perfect self inside each of us requires us to face and release any negative thoughts and beliefs around our desire to connect sexually.  


We believe that liberated sexual expression creates friends, families, and communities. Casual hookups can lead to life-long friends; shared sex partners can lead to a sense of family; and empowered chosen families can lead to celebrated communities.


We believe that sex requires consent. “Proceed” and “stop” are communicated in many ways, both subtle and direct, and both must be honored.


We believe that sex is a powerful energy requiring respect. Powerful energies (like sexual energy) wielded without considering the impacts on ourselves and others may cause serious harm. Sex that is consciously moving toward fun and/or connection is the goal. 


We believe that sex is a spiritual sacrament. It is a mysterious and sacred act that has the power to connect men to themselves and their recognition of the Divine. 

We believe that gay sex mitigates racism. It most certainly does not end racism and it is certainly not a cure, but it does bring GBTQ men of radically divergent backgrounds together. It encourages men to understand each other better, men who may not have done so without the desire to connect sexually.